It can be a challenge to keep the passion alive with a long term partner but with a little effort the rewards are very much worth it. Sex in a long term relationship is much more rewarding from the intimacy a couple share. You both know each other very well and know each others likes and dislikes. If things have been a little stale in the bedroom inject some passion back into your sex life with these mens and womens sex tips:
#1 try something new
Okay, an obvious start but routine and familiarity are major passion killers. You rub button 1 then 2 and push button three, get on top for five minutes and it's all over; not very sexy. Communicate with your partner: each of you write a list of things you would like to try. Put each one on a piece of paper, fold and put in a jar. Take it in turns to pick a piece out of the jar and give it a go. It could be dressing up in a sexy outfit, daring to have sex in a restaurant toilet or driving home in the car naked. Go crazy and let your imagination run wild; the golden rule is be prepared to try anything once.
#2 Playing games
The key here is not what you play, scrabble, connect four, snap: it's how you play the rules. Turn ordinary board games into kinky sex games by trading sexual favours and forfeits. the format of a structured game will make it easier for you to ask for something you would like: a strip tease, a blow job or spanking. Playing games and demanding sexual favours will inject some real fun into your relationship. You can buy adult sex games and sex vouchers online but you can use any ordinary games too.
#3 Go to the Gym together
Exercise can work wonders on your libido and sex life, especially if you are out of shape. You will gain more confidence as your toned body emerges. Your brain releases feel good endorphins which help you relax. It releases testosterone which is a sex drive boost in men and women. And the smell of fresh sweat is packed full of pheromones which are a major turn on. All in all going to the gym is such a boost of chemicals and confidence you won't be able to keep your hands off each other.
#4 Make an appointment to get it on
Kids, work, housework, homework etc etc: how busy is your life? Exhausted? no wonder your sex life is suffering. With all the other demands we have in our manic lives our sex lief can be one of the first things to get shelved when we don't have the time or energy. It can seem impossible to make time but you have to make time: book an appointment in both your diaries that neither of you is allowed to cancel. Try an early night: get a take out so you don't have to cook, have a lie in at the weekend: book a baby sitter so you don't have the kids. To really spice it up arrange to go to your partners office for an hour over the desk at lunch time (make sure you lock the door!) Just the thought and anticipation of having time scheduled for nooky can bring a thrill to your life and bring you closer together.
#5 Get away from the house
Have some indulgent adult time together: book a dirty weekend away. Rediscover each other away from all your stresses. You can make it ever more exciting by both arriving seperately and pretend to have an affair. Go crazy on the room service and treat yourself to champagne, don't leave the room all weekend: have a love in. Buy some erotic lingerie and stock up on massage oil and kinky toys.
If money is tight you don't have to go to a hotel. Enjoy a sexy staycation at home, just make sure to get rid of the kids and tell everyone you are away so you're not disturbed. Turn off the phone, load the fridge with tasty nibbles and champagne and go to bed for the weekend.
It only takes a little imagination to turn a dead relationship around. The keyword is effort; laziness and complacency are the biggest passion killer around. Read more womens sex tips to ignite some fire in your relationship.
